Thursday, February 25, 2016

6 Months of Grief Project: Day 20

Widow Paperwork

This is Day 20 of my #6MonthsOfGrief Project. To learn more about this practice, feel free to visit Day One, where I explain this project in more detail.

It is astonishing to me how much bureaucratic paperwork there is to do when one becomes a sudden widow. My husband also was not the most organized of human beings, so my mountain of paperwork has the added struggle and challenges of proving I'm his beneficiary, tracking down everything I need to file his taxes, and filing for bankruptcy. I'm astonished at what I got accomplished in those first few months after he passed away, but the adrenalin that got me through those tasks is completely gone. I have no energy left and the big to-do items that still need to be completed continue to be undone.

A friend of mine gave me a beautiful, hand-woven basket and I keep all my undone widow paperwork in it. I like that this source of pain, worry and fear is being held in such a sacred, circular container. As I held it in my lap for today's photo, it felt somewhat sacred and holy. It was interesting to shift my feelings around this intimidating pile - to hold it in my lap like a child, as I sit amongst all the boxes and crates and chaos of my life.

I am very aware that this project can bring up a lot around yours or other's grief and loss, I will always follow every post with some online grief support resources that have helped me. Please feel free to let me know of online support that you have found healing in your grief, as well:

Living with Grief Resources:

And remember, I am sharing this project on a variety of platforms, including my Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook feeds, as well as my Pinterest page on Grief. I use the hashtag #6MonthsOfGrief, so it can easily be found on any platform. Please share this project with anyone you think might need it.

Thank you, and see you tomorrow.

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