|A Girl Has No Face|
This is Day 141 of my #6MonthsOfGrief Project. To learn more about this practice, feel free to visit Day One, where I explain this project in more detail.
I turned my online dating profile off. I realized it was starting to affect me in a dark, hurtful way. All these images of myself being judged and ogled by strange men all over the world, started to freak me out. There is already enough judgment about my appearance in daily life.
One of the best gifts of support that was given to me when I was newly widowed were other people's premium cable channel passcodes. Because of this, I've been able to watch Game of Thrones and while I'm totally into all the storylines, I'm particularly fascinated by the story of Arya Stark and her journey with the Many-Faced God. Everyone is processing grief on that show, but I resonate most with the way she is going through her grief. She is alone and wants to annihilate everything she is — to slip into being a Faceless Man. After creating so many images of my face, both for this project and to share on my stupid, online dating profile, I really resonate with wanting to obliterate my face. A girl has no face.
I am very aware that this project can bring up a lot around yours or other's grief and loss, I will always follow every post with some online grief support resources that have helped me. Please feel free to let me know of online support that you have found healing in your grief, as well:
Art with Grief:
- Filmmaker Gemma Green Hope made a short animation in memory of her grandmother
- Photographer Sarah Treanor Takes Moving Self-Portraits to Cope with Her Fiance's Death
- When the Fall Comes, a film about Grief by Adriana Marchione
- Self-Portraits: Expressing Emotion Through Art on What's Your Grief?
- The Hard Romance of Grief by Mark Liebenow
- The poetry of John O’Donohue
- What Joe Biden Has Said About Dealing With Personal Tragedy And Grief
- How Grief Can Make You Sick
- What's Your Grief?
- The Grief Geek
- Modern Loss's excellent resource list
- The writings of Tim Lawrence
- The Rules of Grief are for Other People by Shawn Doyle on The Good Men Project
- Grief Bibliography on Grief Healing
- Teresa “TL” Bruce's What to Say When Someone Dies
- They Brought Cookies: For A New Widow, Empathy Eases Death's Pain by Ann Finkbeiner on NPR
- A Field Guide to Getting Lost by Rebecca Solnit
- Megan Devine’s Refuge in Grief
- The Geography of Sorrow: Francis Weller on Navigating Our Losses, interviewed by Tim McKee in Sun Magazine
- How to Be a Friend in Deed by Bruce Feiler in the New York Times
- 12 Things to Know About the First Year of Grieving Someone You Can’t Live Without by Laurie Costanza in Elephant Magazine
Thank you, and see you tomorrow.