Monday, April 18, 2016

6 Months of Grief Project: Day 73

My body is still alive.

This is Day 73 of my #6MonthsOfGrief Project. To learn more about this practice, feel free to visit Day One, where I explain this project in more detail.

I have a large body. I lift weights, so my muscles are dense and strong. My body is still in grief and I am so tired. Sometimes it feels like I barely survive these days of my life. My body is still alive, even though I often feel a numbing deadness inside of it. This numb emptiness frightens me in a deep, animal place. It is the numb emptiness of non-existence. In the old days, I would hurt my body in some way, just to feel it again. I would cut or burn or bruise myself, as a reminder that the numb emptiness is wrong. The deadness inside is lying to me. I am alive.

I remember talking to a friend once who was deep into the S/M scene in San Francisco. She first started going to bondage clubs while in deep grief and the sex play she willing participated in helped her return to her body. She was literally "beaten" back in to her body. I think my weightlifting practice serves a similar purpose for me - it forces me back into my body, whether I like it or not. It forces me to feel my muscles, my strength, my power, my energy. It forces me to remember that I am alive.


I am very aware that this project can bring up a lot around yours or other's grief and loss, I will always follow every post with some online grief support resources that have helped me. Please feel free to let me know of online support that you have found healing in your grief, as well:

Living with Grief Resources:

And remember, I am sharing this project on a variety of platforms, including my Instagram, Twitter, & Facebook feeds, as well as my Pinterest page on Grief. I use the hashtag #6MonthsOfGrief, so it can easily be found on any platform. Please share this project with anyone you think might need it.

Thank you, and see you tomorrow.

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